The other day my critique partner MIss Heather and I met to go over our work. The subject of how a guy would speak and think came up when she used the word bewildered to discribe what her male character was feeling. I thought that a man would not use that word, he would use words like concerned, threatened, confused, and so on.
Maybe living in a house full of guys I kind of get how they think. I must admit though that I was thrown for a loop when at the tender age of 2 #1 son could make himself burp and of course thought it the height of hilarity to do so often. DH just about busts his gut laughing at any bathroom jokes. And then there was that scene in the movie Meet the Falkers (I think I have the right movie) where the cat uses the toilet and the bathroom noises (for lack of a better word) went on for several minutes causing Monkey Boy to back up and watch that scene over and over keeling over in laughter.
I don’t get their humor but I do think I have a handle on how they think.
To help Miss Heather out I told her a story about a conversation I had with DH several months ago. He and I were watching some show that had a woman on with breast implants so huge and shiny that they looked painful.
“Do guys really think those look good?” I asked. “How can that be attractive? They are so obviously fake and gross looking, I just don’t get it. Do guys even care if they’re real?”
DH looked at me and said in his straight-faced, matter of fact way, “They have nipples, don’t they?”
That was a huge “huh” moment for me and really hit home for Miss Heather too. So now when I write my guys I think about that comment and I find it easier to think like a dude.
Have you had a “huh” moment with a man, where something he said or did helped you to understand him better? Or are they just too different from us to ever understand fully?
